How to know if you are dating
So you’ve been dating one special person for a few months now, but haven’t had the courage to have “the talk” about exclusivity. If he or she shakes at the thought of labels and won’t define your relationship as “girlfriend” and “boyfriend,” it’s a red sign that your relationship just hasn’t become exclusive yet and they might be keeping other options open. Why bother looking for someone else when you’re clearly off the market and you’ve won the prize? If someone wants to make the relationship exclusive, they won’t be logging on while you’re asleep to stare at emails and photos of others. When someone wants to date others, they’ll leave one of the weekend nights available.While some people make their intentions known and agree to becoming exclusive at a certain point, others go with the flow with the hope that they’ll become his or her one and only, even before becoming Facebook official. When someone is really into you and has made you their steady squeeze, they won’t be hiding you and will be proud to show you off. When your significant other stops introducing you as just a friend and it’s replaced with BF or GF publicly, chances are you’re the one-and-only. When you’re excited about being together every weekend, you should know that you’re the one-and-only. You’ve whispered those three special words of “I love you” to each other. If he’s playing the field, all the ladies will know it’s his birthday and will want to be by his side. Not every day is filled with hearts, bells, and whistles. From a toothbrush to an extra set of panties and makeup, when your sweetie carves out a place in his closet or bathroom for you and vice versa, you’ll know it’s serious.
This kind of pretense can include false modesty, politeness and courtesy... Narcissists surround themselves with sycophants and admirers; they want people to look up to them and envy them.
The flipside of this is that narcissists have incredible envy of other people's successes.
Like maybe he wanted to feel things out with me first and see if I was worth a forbidden smooch. So yes, this man you went on a few “dates” with probably did lead you on. He could’ve easily just been like, “I was never flirting with you!
” and then I’d look delusional, even if that wasn’t the case. (If you need a reason why, well, read my past columns.) Instead ask, do you intend on seeing this guy again?
Here are 17 ways to tell if you’re exclusive without having to ask. If your plans regularly include socializing with their friends and co-workers, it’s a terrific sign that you’re exclusive. He refers to relationship as “we” when talking about future plans. Most people don’t say “I love you” until they really mean it. When he doesn’t look at you as temporary, he’ll let you know if his plans include possibly living together, marriage, and will want to make sure you know that you’ll be together for events and holidays months down the line. Your Facebook page includes photos of the two of you. When either of you hears from an ex and it makes you uncomfortable, you’ll both realize you’re not open to the possibilities with them and won’t want to lose what you’ve got. If the two of you hold hands in public, even in front of business associates and family, signs of affection will show the world you’re taken. If he’s making plans with you for his birthday and Valentine’s Day, which are important days for women, you’ll know there isn’t anyone else but you. If you’re under the weather and this person at your side with chicken soup, flowers, and would rather nurse you back to health than hang out with their friends, it’s their way of saying that you’re a keeper. There’s no way he’d want another love interest noticing your presence in his home. He lets his ex know he’s in a serious relationship.